Be FEARLESS :
Everybody in this world has fear. Either it's me, you or the most successful person in this world, we all have fear of something.
But there is a thin difference between the fear we have and the fear that successful people have. We have some different understanding of fear then the successful people's understanding of fear.
Let us discuss it thoroughly.
"Fearless" doesn't mean eliminating fear from your life, but to leverage fear. We can't eliminate fear but we can control it. So keep this in your mind whenever I say "be fearless".
Before we conquer the fear, we must know "What is fear?". Some brilliant people say "it's very important to know the enemy before we start fighting with them". So we must know about the fear. Let me start with "what is fear ?".
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Before we conquer the fear, we must know "What is fear?". Some brilliant people say "it's very important to know the enemy before we start fighting with them". So we must know about the fear. Let me start with "what is fear ?".
Fear is an emotion which will stop us and basically divert our concentration from any other work we want to do. Fear is one of the most crippling emotions.
If you have fear, it means you are not living in present life. You are living in your mind. You are living in your thoughts. You are living in future. If You are living in future, it means you're living in something which does not happen yet.
So basically your fear is dependent on results/consequences. The results/consequences to which you are afraid of, it may happen or may not happen. And for that particular consequence, you forgot to enjoy the present and moat of the time, you don't even do the work for which you are afraid of. Do you get it?
There are various things of which we are afraid of(You can relate here). For eg. Ghosts, darkness, height, water, public speaking(most common), results of our school's/college's exams and many others.
Just open your mind for a while and focus here, these all above-mentioned fears are in the future tense. These are yet not happened. It may happen or it may not happen.
Your school's/college's result may be good or may be bad. Your speech in front of people may be good or may not be good. These consequences are all in the future tense.
(Once you had given your exams or speech, it's already too late to be afraid of the result... So better prepare well before and give your 100% while performing.)
Once you had performed, try to learn as much as you can from the performance, then focus on the next target.
#AlsoRead 4 P's Rule Of Success | Shahraj
Let us discuss the stage phobia topic more deeply. I find it interesting. Why are you afraid of speaking in front of people? Suppose if I give any seminar on any topic, can you ask me any question in front of 100's of people? There will be definitely some doubts on your mind but you can't ask me.
Can you ask me that doubt if there is nobody except me and you? I'm pretty sure that You will ask then.
So what's the problem in front of 100's of people?
Do you know the meaning of self-image?
We look ourselves through the eyes of other people. There doesn't even exist the self-image. We don't believe ourselves. We believe what other people are saying.
So the fear in the case of asking questions, we think "If I ask any question then How other people are going to react with it?". "what if they boo me down?". " What if they start laughing at my question?".
These things come to your mind or not? Yes, Of course.
This simply means we are dependent on others. We depend on the thoughts of people around us.
If your any friend says "Hey bro, you are looking handsome". And you thought that you are really looking handsome, no matter how much worse are you looking.
If your friend says "Your haircut is not good this time. Your older hairstyle is way better." Though you like your new haircut more, you start thinking that if he is saying that, then maybe it's true.
This is how we are dependent on others. We never see ourselves with our own eyes. This is the reason why we get tensed when someone uses abusive words for us.
The biggest question now is " How to conquer it?". I will tell you how to conquer it.
For eg. If someone tells you," You are not looking good in that particular dressing style." but if you like that particular dressing style then you must wear it. No matter, what others think. Do you get it?
So being dependent on yourself is the best solution here.
Always remember this quote, "Kill the fear before it kills you".
(A Interesting Fact About Fear:-
It's estimated that over 160,000 children miss their schools every day due to the fear of attack or intimidation by other students.)
If we combine them all, according to me,
"Fear is that rock which is tied to your neck with the help of a rope, inside the water bodies. Ultimately It will sink you.
So better, Cut that rope which is tied to that rock to your neck and be safe."
Fear is all about your thinking. Think wisely.
"If you stop yourself doing something you like, rather than stop listening to others who have nothing to do with your life, then continue to do the same. It's your life after all".
- Maruf Shahraj Choudhury
If you have fear, it means you are not living in present life. You are living in your mind. You are living in your thoughts. You are living in future. If You are living in future, it means you're living in something which does not happen yet.
So basically your fear is dependent on results/consequences. The results/consequences to which you are afraid of, it may happen or may not happen. And for that particular consequence, you forgot to enjoy the present and moat of the time, you don't even do the work for which you are afraid of. Do you get it?
There are various things of which we are afraid of(You can relate here). For eg. Ghosts, darkness, height, water, public speaking(most common), results of our school's/college's exams and many others.
Just open your mind for a while and focus here, these all above-mentioned fears are in the future tense. These are yet not happened. It may happen or it may not happen.
Your school's/college's result may be good or may be bad. Your speech in front of people may be good or may not be good. These consequences are all in the future tense.
(Once you had given your exams or speech, it's already too late to be afraid of the result... So better prepare well before and give your 100% while performing.)
Once you had performed, try to learn as much as you can from the performance, then focus on the next target.
#AlsoRead 4 P's Rule Of Success | Shahraj
Let us discuss the stage phobia topic more deeply. I find it interesting. Why are you afraid of speaking in front of people? Suppose if I give any seminar on any topic, can you ask me any question in front of 100's of people? There will be definitely some doubts on your mind but you can't ask me.
Can you ask me that doubt if there is nobody except me and you? I'm pretty sure that You will ask then.
So what's the problem in front of 100's of people?
Do you know the meaning of self-image?
We look ourselves through the eyes of other people. There doesn't even exist the self-image. We don't believe ourselves. We believe what other people are saying.
So the fear in the case of asking questions, we think "If I ask any question then How other people are going to react with it?". "what if they boo me down?". " What if they start laughing at my question?".
These things come to your mind or not? Yes, Of course.
This simply means we are dependent on others. We depend on the thoughts of people around us.
If your any friend says "Hey bro, you are looking handsome". And you thought that you are really looking handsome, no matter how much worse are you looking.
If your friend says "Your haircut is not good this time. Your older hairstyle is way better." Though you like your new haircut more, you start thinking that if he is saying that, then maybe it's true.
This is how we are dependent on others. We never see ourselves with our own eyes. This is the reason why we get tensed when someone uses abusive words for us.
The biggest question now is " How to conquer it?". I will tell you how to conquer it.
How To Conquer The Fear:-
We talk about fear and found that we are afraid of the result/consequences which is going to happen once we performed. And the result will come in future.
So the basic thing to conquer the fear is to 'stop thinking about results.' If you do so, it will help you to enjoy the present moment. It will make you more stress-free.
We all know about Mr. Sandeep Maheshwari. According to him,"there are two types of consequences: Physical and psychological.Stop thinking about the psychological consequences and start making plans for physical consequences."
If you are afraid of anything you are going to do, first of all, understand that fear. Then think about whether it's physical or psychological fear.
Start Making plans for physical fears. And for psychological fear you have to use your mind and think whether it's going to harm you or not. If that fear is for (in typical Indian style) "Log kya kehenge?" or " Society mai hamari izzat kya reh jayegi?" , these all are psychological fear. Thoughts of other people will not harm you.
Start being dependent on yourself. In the case of asking a question, if you think that you have doubt in a particular thing, then ask it. Even If the other laughs, it will not harm you.If you are afraid of anything you are going to do, first of all, understand that fear. Then think about whether it's physical or psychological fear.
Start Making plans for physical fears. And for psychological fear you have to use your mind and think whether it's going to harm you or not. If that fear is for (in typical Indian style) "Log kya kehenge?" or " Society mai hamari izzat kya reh jayegi?" , these all are psychological fear. Thoughts of other people will not harm you.
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Let's take some example to understand it,
Suppose if you are going to jump from the mountain, then what's that fear? Is it physical or psychological? It is physical. So make plans before jumping from a mountain. (If its necessary for you to jump from the mountain, then do "Bungee Jumping".)
If you are going to give a speech in front of a crowd, then which type of fear is that? That is psychological fear. So for this, use your mind and think whether it's going to harm you or not. Of course not. Giving a speech in front of a crowd will not harm you anyway.For eg. If someone tells you," You are not looking good in that particular dressing style." but if you like that particular dressing style then you must wear it. No matter, what others think. Do you get it?
So being dependent on yourself is the best solution here.
Always remember this quote, "Kill the fear before it kills you".
(A Interesting Fact About Fear:-
It's estimated that over 160,000 children miss their schools every day due to the fear of attack or intimidation by other students.)
If we combine them all, according to me,
"Fear is that rock which is tied to your neck with the help of a rope, inside the water bodies. Ultimately It will sink you.
So better, Cut that rope which is tied to that rock to your neck and be safe."
Fear is all about your thinking. Think wisely.
"If you stop yourself doing something you like, rather than stop listening to others who have nothing to do with your life, then continue to do the same. It's your life after all".
- Maruf Shahraj Choudhury
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